getting annoyed with the increasingly popular sentiment of ‘if you’re worried that you’re engaging in a toxic behavior, don’t be, because a toxic/manipulative/abusive person would never have that concern. they do it intentionally.’ jesse what the fuck are you talking about. actually people who behave in toxic or manipulative ways don’t tend to sit by themselves in dark rooms scheming about how to hurt people. generally speaking when people do things, it’s because they think they’re justified or necessary. yes even abusers! pretending being toxic/manipulative/abusive is a quality of some mysterious unfathomable other category of people who are Always Evil On Purpose doesn’t help identify or discourage those behaviors, and it doesn’t offer strategies for people to rectify their own unhealthy behaviors either. it just lets you feel good about yourself
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